Quote: I hate to wash dishes. Hate it. Hate to touch the water, stick my hands in dishsoap, hate to dry them, put them away and organize them. But I am an adult.
Yeah. But remember which half of the marriage you are talking to. I hate living without sex, but if that's what I have to do, at least for now, to keep this marriage going, then I'm gonna do it. I'm an adult too, and right now, keeping the pressure off seems to be the loving thing to do.
Quote: But yanno, I don't really care if you are hungry. I am not hungry, so go somewhere else to eat.
She doesn't say that last sentence ;->
Quote: How would you not want to give pleasure to someone you love? She seems to like cuddling with you, sharing affection. Is she telling you that only her feelings count in this matter?
Yes, she pretty much is.
But she's also dealing with a new identity, a change in perspective that is about two weeks old. And she's also very much enjoying not being under so much deadening pressure.
There may be a time that I start putting on gentle pressure again. I'm pretty certain that time is not now. Frankly, right now we're both being very caring and concerned about the other, and doing a lot of deep sharing about our feelings. I can at least tell her about my struggles with sexuality, and she can care about it. We haven't been on the same side of this issue before. I've spent a lot of time trying to put gentle pressure on her and not let the subject drop, and it wasn't working.
Yes, I would like her to come to the conclusion that she should have sex with me. But I don't think the dishwater analogy is going to help her...
