Yes, we definitely have more intimacy. And we definitely both want to work at this (I didn't know for sure that she did when I first posted, but that's clear now).
Right now, she's absolutely closed to the possibility of trying to have sex, even in the future. She really wants to say that she's not broken, that she doesn't need to be changed, and to be freed from the pressure to have sex. Our therapist mentioned that lesbians in marriages sometimes do have sex, and it might not be the most wonderful sex, but it can still be significant. Esther said clearly that she doesn't want to even think about that.
