Yeah, definitely a bummer. I wish I had some sage advice for you, but I wanted to let you know that I have sympathy for your situation. My wife, I'm pretty sure, is not a lesbian or even bisexual. I do suspect that she may be asexual. Still, she is definitely feminist in the bad sense, thinking that men are the oppressors, which presents a lot of problems.
The fact that you want to stay together is great, but then, how is she to fulfill her sexual needs, and you yours? If you're both willing to be celibate, fine. If not, then I see problems.
