Minky,

Thanks for the background that really helps And don't be embarrassed. I too have what I consider a very happy marriage...outside of this one particular area. My LDH and I love each other VERY much...we just have this one snaffoo.

You mentioned your W has been to doctors and taken testosterone...has she spoken w/a counselor therapist yet either with you or on her own? Many times there is something from that person's past, or in their own perception of themselves that prevents them from letting go enough to enjoy sex or discover their own sexuality. That often requires a professional to help with.

My LDH and I are getting ready to go to a therapist as a couple..he had been going by himself. This is a safe space to work through whatever issues she may have (that she may not even be aware of) and also for you to learn how to potentially help her too.

Have you two discussed this possibility?

GEL

Well behaved women rarely ever make history!