Darren, I going to jump in here. I am M3MH wife- Brandon and I kind of have an agreement to not to read each other posts- But I fell on to your thread because your title caught my eye. So, Brandon please do feel like I am stepping on your toes here- I really do mean too- First of all thank you for posting- Your first couple of post really helped me- B told has told me many of the some things that you said in your post, and I have had a really hard time believing it- Hearing it from someone else in a similar sitch helps. Second, B has said to many times that he has tired to break it off with many times with OW- but she would not let him- again I have a hard believing this- so my point is YOU HAVE TO BE FIRM and strong- Cut the tries and not matter what suck to it- This is going to be harder then you think- My take on why B wishes he had told me is because we could have started fixing our R quicker- because as soon as I found out about OW she was not as important to him - But to tell you the truth I wish he would have not told me, I wish he would have been strong enough to end it and start fixing our R- I knew something was not right between us- and I chalked it up to stress, we had so much going on it our lives, that I just kept thinking things will get better once the stress of the wedding is over, once this and that is taken care of. Your wife knows something is not right. So what do I think you should do? Stop your A, read DB, and work really really hard on your marriage- If you think there is any chance of your wife finding out, then it is probably better you tell her. But if you do - YOU MUST SHOW REMORSE- No one told me B was cheating on me, and people knew. People who were at my wedding. No one told me until after he left me. Nice hey. Do what you feel is right!
