no, I don't think that it is terrible but the question is can you live with the fact that this has happened and you are the only one for the rest of your life that will know this. I ask because I couldn't, so I lift instead. this was the wrong move entirely. What do you think prompted this wamon after 20 years to tell her husband? It was guilt if you ask me. the reason why there marriage became a shamble was probably because he may have felt that they were living a lie for the past 20 years. she may not have thought that but you really have to see through the eyes of the one who would be hurt. better you say something before someone else says it for you. this is right from the heart trust me. it may make things worse in the beginning but if things go well you will feel better that there are no secrets and she knows that you did hurt her but you were truthful when it really mattered. It's your choice, looking back now I know I would have told my wife everything.
