Darren, I wish I had done what you did. You have much less of an uphill battle than I because I waited to long. My W found out from someone else.
I to had an affair on my wife, it was the first time I cheated on anyone in my whole life and it made me sick to my stomach the whole time the affair was going on. I put my wife through hell because of my stupidity. you did the right thing.
I severed every tie with the ow. I couldn't tell my just married wife what I did because I to couldn't hurt her. This whole situation destoyed her and I was destroying myself when it was going on. I just a week ago moved back home for the first time in 5 months just as a roommate sitch for now and we are trying to make things work. the fact that I didn't tell her and the fact that I left we the worst mistakes of my life.
I left before she found out because the guilt that I felt was to much for me to bare. thinking back I wish I had never left, I wish I had ended it before we got married and I wish I had been the one tell her.
You are so doing the right thing and you are right it will be an uphill battle, now it is up to you to show her in every way possible that you have severed all ties, with my wife, she will have 100% access to my cell if I get one my bank account everything to ease her mind that I have truely changed and I am not doing anything that she would see as Questionable.
I am very happy to see that you came to your senses before it was to late. I wish I had found this site before I left I would probable be in a much better place as far as things go. There are alot of great people here and alot of help if needed.
If you would like the whole story check out my W's posts under NEWCOMERS married_three_months.
Yes three months
Hope all goes well please don't hesitate to ask me anything, I will help if I can. Good Luck you are in a good place.
