You go big boy. You have taken the first step now keep looking a head. If the ow is PO'd watch her. We woman tend to get nasty. It doesn't matter what her feelings were you know where your heart lies. Mourn her and the friendship but don't get sucked back in. Snap that rubberband and don't have any contact with her. You did great now full steam ahead on the rest of the story.
Think about your wife and what happens if she finds out. Be prepared for it. And think about talking to someone about the sitch don't ignore it. Really think about telling her and if you think you need to do it. Read those books even if you just go to a store and pick it up find the parts you need and read them.
Here are a few pages you might look at if you don't want to buy the book. NOT JUST FRIENDS page 63 Other ways of dealing with Internal Conflict. Page 81 Confessions Part 4 page 88. These might help you.
You've done the right thing yes you may mourn the ow and miss her but she is not the one for you and you must take the time to mourn and then go on. Become the man you want to see looking back at you from the mirror. You have a great start already. Best of luck keep working on you .
Have a great weekend. Watch your children watch your wife and see what you have gained by ending it.
