Debcb, Trying, You were both so right on all of your comments and advice. I can't beleive it took just reading your posts to help me open my eyes and realize what I struggled with forever. I told the ow today what my feelings are, that I love my wife and family and our situation was hurting me and my family and probably her too.
It was hard for me because I didn't want to hurt her but I did make it clear that i was done and we would both be better off. I figured why wait it took me to long to seek some help and support, I'm not going to make that same mistake with ending things (even though I have already waited too long) But it's done.
She was P.O'd and tried some of her tactics I used to fall for to keep me from ending it. I'll never know if she was just working me or really felt for me the way she said but I don't really care. I fudged up and now I'm going to work on fixing things. I know I have along way to go but with the resources you've given me to read and the support of people like you I can turn to, I know I can do it. To all the women out there who have had to deal with stupid confused men like me, I apologize for the creepy thoughtless things some of us do.
This seems to quick and easy but I know its uphill from here on and I'm ready. I just put my rubberband on.
Thanks
Any men out there who are tempted, it isn't worth it trust me, this has taken years off my life and almost ruined it.
