Hi Nik, Slowly & Livnlearn...

You were quick to respond and cheer me on. Thanks so much...I love having my empathetic friends here on the BB....you and some others have been real lifesavers at times.

I have no real news to catch you up on. H does travel a lot....but when he's home....he really here...not distant. He does not seem to be working too hard at the R, acting as tho things were the same as they were 3+ yrs ago. Funny....there are times I want to confront and encourage him to talk/summarize what really happened during his phase/MLC....to really explain it all to me. But, I am afraid to confront....wanting him to feel ready to go there.

As far as working again....I had gone over 5 years without working outside the home.....we both had agreed that would be best for the family, and his income made up the difference at the time. Well, when he hit his MLC stage that was one of the things he pointed a finger at with me. Saying, I was acting "entitled"....that hurt....

So I took a long look at myself, and realized that I did miss my work....I'm a therapist and good at it. So when I read DR and started taking better care of ME.....one of the things that came my way was a great opportunity to work part-time and be an independent contractor in my field. I mean, I think God brought that position to me in a timely way....and I love it. I'm amking dcent money, have control over most of my hours, and feel I am contributing in many ways. I also lost weight, exercised more, and grew in my spiritual path. All that started to show....and I think H noticed big time. He realized him pointing the finger...was NOT quite the deal...but I have to admit, I had issues to improve upon.

I am in a position to be very thankful....but as many of you know, it is still hard work. It is easy to slip into old habits, get sloppy, etc.

Well enough rambling...I will see what's happening with all of you.

Mooka