I'm going to chime in and say the same thing - get out now. Think of it this way - would you want to have children with this man - with the thought in your head all the time that he 'might' get angry, loose his temper and...???
Marriage gets harder, not easier, with time. It takes two mature people to navigate these waters.
Protect yourself, find out what resources you have available to you in case you need to get out fast. As others have said, no matter WHAT your situation is, you are worth something as a person, and your safety is what should come first.
You've wandered into a bunch of insightful, caring people, but if you do want to find people who's situation may more closely match your own, here's a site with a lot of information, and another caring BB.
