Well, at first he told me he was either: tired, stressed, sick, not in mood... etc. Then, when I waited for the right moment when he was healthy, rested and cheerful, his answers were: I am not attracted to you, I don't feel like doing it right now, I do not like my body, I do not like your body(!!!), etc. Later, he told me that he did not think that sex was something people need (!!!), that he is not going to EVER have sex with me or anyone else at all, that I should buy a plastic toy and help myself in the bathroom. I could not understand where that attitude was coming from. I kept asking myself "Did he really mean that? Or was he just trying to shut me up by insulting me? What did I do to deserve it? Is there really something wrong with me?"
The way I presented it to him... I tried to be nice and patient in the beginning. I tried to initiate sex in many different ways. When that did not work, I started giving him "hints" that I was unhappy with our sex life by buying a "toy" (yes, I did that) and stopped taking birth control. Since I work out regularly, I felt comfortable with going around nude in my apartment - that did not affect him anyway. When I watched different TV shows about sex problems and ways to improve sex life, I used to turn the volume high enough so he could hear it in another room (I am sure all neighbours could hear it too). When all that did not work, I tried to talk to him. I just refuse to believe that he did not see how bad I felt about our sex life. Yes, we argued and yelled at each other too. I went to sleep on the couch several times, but each time he insisted on me coming back to bed with him, since "it is not normal for spouses to sleep in separate rooms" (!!! And not having sex is normal!!!!).
