Question for you, is it just the number, or the 'quality' and feeling? Is the twice a week because she wants to, or to make you feel better or an obligation?
Is she less 'low desire' or just less unwiling?
I think I would feel much better about my sitch if there was more desire, not just more willingness.
That's a great point. I still have a little bit of trouble with the amount sexual energy that she has prior to each experience. We've learned that her energy "catches up" once we get going.
But I do have to keep reminding myself that her drive IS what it IS. Her "willingness" 6 months ago is way different than her willingness now and that's the key difference. 6 months ago, I wouldn't accept her brand of "willingness" because it was clearly motivated by a sense of obligation and maybe some fear that I would leave. Now our relationship is much different and she will nicely (sometimes enthusiastically) agree for a romp unless she truly isn't feeling like it...versus before when she would only do it when she felt like it...which was never.
There's a big mercy-sex and hmmm-let's-see-if-I-can-get-in-the-mood-for-ya sex. The difference is in their response to your initiation.
I used to give her a hard time about her lack of natural drive. Once I accepted that it might just be our reality, then I chilled out and accepted her efforts in a positive way. The fact that she doesn't catch any crap from me regarding the SL has drawn her out better and is giving her the space to improve her natural desire. It's moving slowly and sometimes I get impatient, but it's worth waiting for as long as she's trying.
Last year was all about getting our heads in the right place and this year is all about practicing what we've learned. There is no quick fix.
Anywhere is walking distance if you have the time
-Steven Wright
