Quote: I do think it's important that we HD do our part in moving forward by trying to work on trust and resentment. However, I can't really do this as long as my H is not consistent in his efforts to change.
Hmmm, the old, "I can't work on my stuff until you work on your stuff"? The "you go first" standoff? (I kick myself for how long I held onto that mindset.) The mantra for partners of gamblers (alcoholics, whatever) is "focus on yourself". Don't let H's behavior influence when you work on your trust and resentment.
