Quote: ------------ He does not want to address this issue. ------------
Actually, he has already made up his mind. He just doesn't want the fireworks that would result if he came right out and said that. It is called conflict avoidance. He is a conflict avoider.
quote: ------------ These are not acceptable answers. What am I supposed to do, throw him against a wall? I am already sleeping on the couch. This is his choice. I am NOT saying it is okay, but I will not threaten him for that will only put us back in power play mode and get us nowhere. -------------
No reason to threaten. Clearly and lovingly state your boundary, then go on about your life the best you can. In the same way spouses of SSM who post here are told to simply state :"I can not continue to live in a sex starved marriage", you state your boundaries: "I can not sit idly by and watch you make unilateral decisions that will potentially destroy our family".
quote: ------------- What else should I say? -------------
"Hubby, your actions are destroying our relationship. You are acting in a selfish, singular manner. This is a marriage. A normal marriage has two decision makers, not one. Hubby, I need to know what are you going to do about this situation? I need your answer in the next 12 hours"
All the best, -NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
