Quote: "Hubby, I desperately want to support your work efforts for our family. I believe that you are trying hard for us, but I can see no real benefit in your taking on additional responsibility at this time in our lives.
We are already experiencing marital difficulty because of the current schedule and workload. I can't imagine what will happen to our family if it continues or gets even worse."
I did say this to him. He told me that it isn't always going to be like this for him at work. He'll hire additional people which will ease his load. I told him he could add 15 more people under him and he won't work less hours. He said it won't be like that. I said, "what if it is?" He said, "then I'll quit." And I said, "And do what?" And he said, "I don't know, I guess I'll have to figure it out."
I have many times suggested starting a business together. He brushes me off with lame comes backs like, "I guess we'll have to talk about it." I come up with an idea, he laughs at me. "Yeah, right." or "I don't want to do that."
When I brought up my concern about marital difficulties only getting worse if he took this job, he reverts to how I control things, he has no say. Why would I want him to be around more when clearly I don't want him around now?
I've told him that is his inaccurage perception. In order for our marriage to get better we have to do it together... and we have to be together to work together. He says, "huh."
He does not want to address this issue.
These are not acceptable answers. What am I supposed to do, throw him against a wall? I am already sleeping on the couch. This is his choice. I am NOT saying it is okay, but I will not threaten him for that will only put us back in power play mode and get us nowhere.
What else should I say?
Corri
P.S. The reason I get no other answers than these from him is because he wants the job. Period.
