Corri wrote: -------------- What would you say to him, NOP?
How do you not turn this into a power play? --------------
"Hubby, I desperately want to support your work efforts for our family. I believe that you are trying hard for us, but I can see no real benefit in your taking on additional responsibility at this time in our lives.
We are already experiencing marital difficulty because of the current schedule and workload. I can't imagine what will happen to our family if it continues or gets even worse."
I am sure that you can see plenty of good reasons why he should NOT continue on in this fashion. He already gets a pension, you two are financially stable. Is there a reason why you can't work together to provide for your family as opposed to introducing even greater separation into the mix?
These are questions that he should be able to provide REASONABLE responses to. If he can not, then why not?
There is no power play when your concern is genuinely for your relationship and for your family itself. Protecting your family is a base instinct, and the core cause of your raw reactions to your husbands behavior.
You are not trying to control him. what you are wanting is for him to do the right thing. What you must understand, is that if he doesn't, then you will have no choice but to vie for the best outcome for your family. That is what responsible parents/spouses do.
-NOPkins-
I will ferret out an affair at any opportunity.
-An affair is the embodiment of entitlement, fueled by resentment and lack of respect. -An infidel will remain unreachable so long as their sense of entitlement exceeds their ability to reason.
