I actually have explored variations on the theme of sharing my H's drinking hobby in an effort to build intimacy. There was a brief period when my kids were toddlers when I thought I had solved the sex problem by purchasing beer, tequila and porn movies every Saturday night (Please imagine a typical 30ish housewife type trying to stop two hyper kids from running around the video store while she makes her selection from the adult catalog and you will understand the depths of my desperation.).
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
