Let me tell you what my DB coach told me when I expressed similar frustrations about my HDH not wanting to work on the R. There was so much friction between us and loads of frustration for me and I'm sure him too.
She said and Michelle says in her books. Stop talking about the R to your S. Why keep trying to force the talking about the R. since it is not working.
How can you act that will attract him to you? ie: no complaining about him or the R...just enjoy what there is to enjoy.
This is not the only thing, just one of a few behaviors to change that will change the "dance step" of the R.
The DB coach said not to "prod" or "nudge" or try to "fix" the R anymore as it has not worked.
We have such great advice from the people who have put this board here. I'm taking it.
I don't post here much because people seem to do exactly what Michelle says we should NOT listen to. People telling us how right we are and how wrong our S is. Can't change the S...only us.
It just gets way to frustrating trying to change what we cannot.
