I must ask this again. Have you spelled things out for her? Have you had that heart-to-heart yet? Have you really told her how this affects you? It's a difficult thing to do, having a conversation like that, but it's absolutely necessary.
CeMar, I don't believe that you can fix this on your own. I find it highly unlikely that without communicating your hurt/rejection/frustration to your W that she's going to buy in that this is really a problem and figure out for herself if she wants to help fix the situation.
If you try to do this entire thing by yourself, without verbalizing to her clearly & concisely how this affects you may just end up pushing her further away. Because so many times I've noticed when I try to take things on by myself where my H & I are concerned....I only end up pushing him away.
CeMar...I know that if I hadn't flat-out told my H that this had become a BIG problem for me...we'd still be where we were a year ago and I'd still be miserable. I can tell you for sure that if he hadn't understood that this is really a problem we would have definitely ended up divorced. Sure we stumble now, we both still get very frustrated with each other over this whole thing, but we're headed in the right direction.
