Quote: The reason I'm telling this story is that I think this might be a good strategy to break the gridlock and grow by using other life events to affect change in other aspects of your life. When a parent dies, you are going to change whether you like it or not. It's like trying to push a heavy box..once it gets moving it's much easier to turn it and manipulate it in other directions.
I think this is true and it doesn't even have to be a conscious decision. I know that my resolve to work on my marriage was in part due to the fact that my father died, I was turning 40 and anticipating an empty nest in 5 years. Times of growth and change will come whether or not you plan for them. I guess I feel like there is still a certain quantity of "kid glue" holding my relationship together. I don't know if I'll feel truly successful unless I can envision my H and I happy together once the kids are gone. Regular sex is just a bare minimum requirement for acheiving that vision.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
