First, let me point out the positives (which, considering how very depressed he is, are quite remarkable):
Quote: So he eats a helping and says it is nice.
Quote: H sees me walking on foot (too snowy for the bike) and calls from the balcony, you should have called me to help you with that!
Quote: once when D was rude to me, H took it up with her and said that she was not to be rude to her mother, and really took her to task for it.
I know, may not seem like much, but coming from someone so depressed, it's not bad. He showed concern for you, stood up for you, complimented your cooking - all good.
Quote: Anyway, Friday I made a nice lunch - homemade pizza and H said it was very good. I had made enough to leave some for D at dinner time. But H picked at it throughout the day, and I had to tell him to please leave some for D. Stuff like this never seems to occur to H, he just helps himself. This is the narcissist in him.
Or this is the hungry man who has been eating his own cooking for too long. I wouldn't chastise him for stuff like this - these are the positive things you want him to remember about you, what a good cook you are, how kind you are, etc.
Quote: He said when he returns from his trip on Thursday, he was thinking of delaying his return till the Saturday, when he and D could get a lift up to his place with the landlord. I pointed out that THIS weekend was his (to have D), that he had specifically ASKED us to change around weekends earlier.
Another slip here - he's basically asking to spend a couple more days with you when he returns and you shoot him down based on a technicality of whose weekend it is? Let's remember, there's NO WAY right now he can say he wants to be with you, so he HAS to use D as an excuse.
Quote: he told me he had been invited by his friend (local) to his birthday party last night, but H told him he would rather spend the evening with D. I had to quash the usual feeling of being slighted, that MY company is not anything to mention.
See above.
Quote: So, to sum up, you could say H is depressed, depressed, depressed. God knows if it is something specific that happened, or just pre-meeting nerves.
I don't know, but I would take it as a positive that you think he was staying with OW1 before he came to your house, and he arrived in such a down mood - obviously he didn't have a great time if he was there
Be glad that he ISN'T with you right now - living with someone this depressed would be exhausting - use this time to keep working forward on your stuff, GAL, self-improvement - and hey, a little happiness would be okay too, right??? Then you will be better prepared to be a happy beacon of light for your poor lost H.
