I replied to H's email about the ecard with a short one-liner, a little private joke of ours.
This evening H rang and we talked for quite a while. Mainly H talking about his project, and he admitted, without prompting, that it really was all about his relationship with his father, which was historically terrible. I think his father was cold, unnemotional, sentimental and cruel, and self centred, and didn't support H in any of the normal things, let alone in any special way. He was NOT a decent, caring father to him. I was always aware of this, but perhaps ignorant about how much this really affected H today. This whole current project of H's is SOOOOO much about working through H's feelings about his father and himself.
I listened and validated as much as I could.
Then H spoke to D for a bit, and asked for the phone to be passed back to me. H said he would call his landlord tomorrow to ask if they were going up with space in the car for D and me at the weekend, and he would let me know as soon as possible. He said if they were vague, that he would take it as a no, so that I could get on with my plans for the weekend and not get jerked around. Gosh, that's a first for H! Also, I do have plan B, with my good friend - a pyjama party/movie night.
Oh, and H was curious about the card, wanted to know what it said, and could I post it to him? He thinks it is rude as in 'not polite' rather than as in 'risqué'.... He's going to be in for a surprise when he sees it! I don't think he even cottoned on to it's being Valentine's Day.
Anyway, I told him it was an animated card that would remain available for a month, so he had time to check it out still. He told me to keep the link. H sounds keen to see it!!!!
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
