I'm afraid the deed is done, I sent H the card. It is wistful/rude, but jokey. NOT, definitely, one that could come from D and myself!!
Let's see what happens. H has told me he is a coward with women. He doesn't have to do anythig about it, there was no need for a reply. I am sure that getting a card on St Valentine's day, of any sort, is good for the ego. And I took a fair amount of initiative in our early years together. He later told me I should have made a move earlier!! (So much for the "we got married in a hurry, blah blah blah")
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"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates