We must have cross posted, hence I didn't see this till now.
Goals? I still haven't got around to posting mine in detail. I seem to fly by the seat of my pants, but I have got a few little things under my belt better than in the early days -
I try not to react to things immediatley, or at least keep things to myself and work through them.
I try to listen, not butt in, and validate as best I can.
I try to be upbeat and my best self.
I try not to smother, control or otherwise treat H as my kid.
I try not to take things too personally, or to assume. At least, I jump to the worst conclusions, then tell myself not to assume!
See, just having H here for the weekend has severely tested my detachment...
I want my H home, NOW, in my bed, and as my husband !! Wah!
But, patience, patience, patience....
Some positives I detected from the weekend -
H and I didn't get into any arguments or disagreements.
He didn't get any phone calls on his cell phone, that I was aware of.
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Ack! H just called to say that he enjoyed the weekend. I said, that's nice, I was afraid that we didn't really do anything much... H said, that's why I enjoyed it so much!
I ventured to suggest that next time he is down here, we might go on a cycle ride... H said, I don't have a bicycle. I said, you could bring yours down (he paid good money for it and never uses it up where he is), so he said, I suppose I could do, could even ride it down sometime, maybe in April...
This is what we used to do, in fact the reason we got together in the first place, nearly 19 years ago. We used to go out on day-long bike rides together.
I found a funny, risqué ecard, that sort of makes a joke about our breakfast this morning. Still debating whether to send it. Don't know whether it will scare him off, or give him some encouragement. It is funny/very suggestive but not soppy or too personal.
Anyone?
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
