Thanks for your suggestions Ellie, and by explaining a little of the situation here regarding jobs, I was not discounting all the other avenues!
All these goals need a bit of thought to sort them about, but I WILL be getting back soon with them.
Today I had a new student who wants intensive lessons for a couple of weeks, so that's good for me. Puts my PMA up to get work in!
Livnlearn
PS I have started putting up a mental stop sign whenever my thoughts turn to H or his OW, not just if they are bad thoughts. I need to REALLY REALLY focus on myself once more.
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates