Quote: A question...do you think your H overly avails himself of his landlord's kindness? It seems that he relies on them quite heavily in his interactions with you and D. I wonder if he uses them and their availability as a sort of buffer?
Let me explain. H lives up in the hills in a pretty isolated place, a few houses, literally, in a group. The nearest village/town is about six to seven kilometres away, uphill. The bus service to and from our city is very infrequent (only twice on a Sunday, for instance) and stops only in this town, so you then have to walk down to his place. It is a narrow mountain road with no street lighting. Neither of us has a car, never have had. His landlord goes up most weekends from the city, and they are happy to give D or H a lift, if there is space. But as far as I know, they have never gone out of their way to accomoadate H or D beyond what they were planning on doing anyway, which is fair enough. They are also rather changeable in their plans, which can make life difficult.
H was the one who decided to live up there the week after the bomb. I think he thought it was just a summer arrangement, somehwere cheap to be with OW1 etc. He was shocked to find that he had to pay for D's and my support, so his spending is very cramped.
We have a legal separation agreement in place now, for the past year, but he still has to pay out a fair bit. Don't know when he will move nearer or to the city.
I feel H is in withdrawal, strangely, as he doesn't share much with me, doesn't stay on the phone long, yet is sort of friendly enough, and this invite was out of the blue, for me. I wasn't expecting it. He still tends to use D as the reason he is doing anything. Which of course may be the case.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
