Got the Men in MLC book by the Conway guy and had a quick skim. Basically sees MLC as inevitable in every man's life and enjoins compassion for it.

Wondering what approach to take to this weekend with H at his place? I hope I am not nervous. It will be wierd. I wonder if it will be equally significant for H as it will be for me?

I plan to stand well back from any mothering/controlling/fixing role and let him play host. But plan to take up some kind of edible gift.

The strange thing is that our original short 'courtship' began (after we had been friends for years) when I visited him out in this country for a two week holiday, and he was living in a rather primitive place, so it will be a bit of déjà vu... Only this time there is a foal at foot!

I sent him a very short, upbeat but inconsequential email a while ago, hoping to deposit something in his love bank. He has said he gets lonely up there on his own.

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"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates