My friend who came over on Saturday mentioned that she had bumped into my H when they had gone inot the hills for a trip, and that H really seemed middle aged. Which is ironic as H seems to be very concerned about the fact that he is 'nearly' fifty (he's forty five).
Since he started thinning on top years ago he has had a shaved or near shaved head. When clean shaven he looks quite young. Some years ago he started growing a quite cute goatie or at least a shaped beard. Since the bomb, more or less, he has had a full beard, which he keeps trimmed though. He has a LOT of white in his beard though, and it makes him look older, while his jaw line is still quite firm and he looks much younger clean shaven.
Then there's his since-the-bomb habit of smoking, which started out with cigars, went on to pipes and now seems to be mainly cigarettes.
And, funniest of all, he has purchased more than one walking stick! Not becuase he is old or disabled, far from it, he has to walk miles up and down hill most days just to get to the shops. But as a walking aid in the 'mountains'...
I think he might be in search of GRAVITAS.
He spoke of the memorial service he attended in terms of how many people had attended (there were many) and then said - not a bad 'achievement'...
I was directed to a site about narcissism by MicheleTW on In-Love-and-Hopeful-11's thread over in Hopefulness and it got me thinking.
I think my H has many traits of the PA Man as well as the Narcissist, but NOT ALL of them. The traits he does have are very strongly present, but he thankfully doesn't seem to posses some of the worst ones either. For example, I don't think H is without a conscience, but he does seem to lack empathy at very significant moments, although he is utterly sentimental at the same time. Interesting...
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
