H called again in a bad mood, said the landlord had changed their hour of leaving to two hours later without even informing him, so he couldn't see D today. He would only arrive in time for the memorial service. (What about all those hours after five thirty?) I said, OK. Then H said, I will come and see D tomorrow. (Notice he always mentions visiting D when he wants to create distance, doesn't mention me at all, only I live in this house here, you know?) I asked when tomorrow?

He said with great irritation, I don't know!

I said, look H, this happens too often, we are somehow supposed to wait around all weekend for your visit... (OK not great DBing I know, but this is getting old old OLD...)

He cut in with a tirade spewed out in great fuy, I didn't even catch all of it, just the words, 'MY DAUGHTER' and 'FATHER' and something about the weather, and then some *@@+%%$!! before putting the phone down.




D asked what had happened, and I told her that her Dad couldn't make it, and she said, oh, I know, the landlord is always changing his time of coming down. I had to really bite my tongue hard from saying - Well, your dear father has the time to go and *talk* to OW1 all night but can't pin himself down to when he is going to come see you tomorrow...

So I went ahead and made some plans for today and this evening at least, with two lots of friends.

It wouldn't be toooooo much of an assumption to say that H has weekend plans with OW1, which I am supposed to fit around. Nope.

Remember last summer he was down in the city staying with OW1 for a whole week and didn't get in touch with us at all or see D when he was only minutes away?

PLUS, he has 'had' D two weeks in a row now and it is not his weekend anyway, so throwing his weight around about not seeing D on HIS timetable is really a bit rich.

I suppose what really bugs me is that he has endless 'talks' with these OW but never once afforded me the courtesy of a 'talk' before dropping the bombshell.

Vent over.

Now what?

Livnlearn

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates