Yesterday evening H rang just as we were about to eat dinner, to speak to D. She was rather distracted and offhand with him. It was H's birthday and D had not been able to speak to him in the morning before going to school because when we tried to ring his phone was engaged (online probably).
The phone was not passed to me for anything, so I just left off the situation, didn't interfere.
This afternoon, H called, his voice sounding quite low (depressed), to ask if D was angry with him about something last night. I said, I didn't think so, she is sometimes just offhand because she is distracted.
I have talked to her about this, but you really can't make a nine year old understand phone etiquette completely, she just behaves on the phone as she feels at the moment, I can't MAKE her be enthusiastic. She has been short or uninterested with me as well, when I speak to her while she is visiting with her Dad. I just accept it.
But I know it is harder for H to accept as he doesn't see her for days or weeks on end. I guess as a consequence of his own choices.
I did try to make him feel better, and said I would get D to ring him this evening. I will probably try to talk to her a little about how to behave on the phone.
Any thoughts? Should I 'interefere' at all?
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
