new and backsliding

[NYsurvivor]

Joined a gym! Way to go!

I am going to work hard on turning my emotions off while H is around

Detaching is not about turning emotions off. It's about disconnecting them from other people and events. Think of what the word "detach" means. Unfasten, disconnect, separate. So then, this is something you do regardless if H is around or not.

Do I continue 180's while detaching?

So, considering the answer above, what do you think?

Does anyone know where detaching is in the DB book?

Is it in Michele's books? I'm not sure it is. Check out that link I gave in the other post: http://www.coping.org/control/detach.htm

And what about ML?

Well, OK, but give me half an hour to get ready.