Thanks everyone for all the support and input.

NY, thanks for clearing up the detachment issue. I was going to post and ask for some clarification on detaching.

I am going to work hard on turning my emotions off while H is around. I think in a way I have been doing that. I just have days when I backslide (it usually around a certain time of the month---those darn hormones).

Anyway, told H last night I was going out today. Of course he wanted details. I told him a few things but that I had not planned it all yet. He wanted to know times. He had some errands to run too. Oh well, I left first for a change and left him in charge of the kids.

I went shopping, got some more clothes that fit.

Joined a gym!!!!! I have to tell you I am a very shy, introverted person and it was very intimadating. But I did it anyway. Hey, even had a few looks--that felt good.

Hit the book store and got Infidelty: A Survival Guide, The 5LL book and A Wife's Prayer book. Sat for awhile there and read. Gone about 5 hours, usually only gone about 1-2 w/out kids.

So I guess I am on the road to detaching. Do I continue 180's while detaching. Does anyone know where detaching is in the DB book? And what about ML? I am guessing that is out? Any advice would be appreciated.

Thanks everyone,
Sherry