I was very conflicted about detaching or making home that great place. Somedays I would say, ok I am going to cook when I get home, make home fun...The next day say to myself, why bother. That probably shined thru to H and saw me all over the place. Dont get me wrong I was very positive in front of H, I generally enjoy spending time with him, so that was not hard for me. But you have to look at yourself now and decide what it is you need to do. Is it detach, or is it show H a happy home and life. Only you can decide what will work best here. What was life like before this? Were you always the betty crocker of the family? Did you always have his meals waiting for him? If not, then those would be 180's for you. For me, I had not cooked the daily meals in 1 yrs, I did the big ones (company, etc) but the everyday stuff I didnt, that is why I tried to re-establish that in my house. I do think H appreciated it, or at least took notice although he did not say anything about it.
You do have to do stuff without H and the kids. Is there anyone that you can leave the kids with, because right now H doesnt care enough to take care of them. He just wants to go out on a whim (mine does too) so you cant rely on him. Find someone to take them for the afternoon and you go get your nails and hair done ok?
