I have mentioned counseling but H will not go. I even suggested him going by himself without me and he said he wouldn't.
Unfortunately I think backsliding hurts us big time. I know it has hurt my sitch. My h distances himself a little bit everytime. There was a point when he would reach out to me and was trying a little. But not much anymore. I think it is from me bringing things up and my emotions and then us fighting. Everytime that has happened he has said you want me to come back to this. Fighting and how we resolve issues is one of our big problems. So I know I have pushed him away. That is why instead of focusing on making it a week or whatever, I have decided to go day by day. It is easier for me to focus on one day at a time. One day seems more doable than a week or a month.
