I think that we are all a little guilty of giving advice that we cant do ourselves. The thing is we know what has to be done, it is just doing it that is the hard part right?
I dont know if my constant backsliding has anything to do with my H leaving again (he hasnt left yet but it is happeneing) or the fact that he wants to go to visit OW again and knows that if he is in the house he cant do that, that is making him leave, but I will say that you are lucky and not so lucky to have him there. Lucky because you can DB, DB, DB...Unlucky because it doesnt allow you to react to things that you might need to do for your own emotional well being (without H noticing).
How does your H feel about counseling? I told my H that I would not talk about our sitch AT ALL if he agreed to go to counseling, that we would save that talk for counseling and thats it...At first he said no, then he agreed. We went to counseling from July-Sep. The only reason we stopped was because counselor told him to make a choice to save his marriage (by ending it with OW) or get a divorce and H didnt want to make the choice...So he stopped going.
Maybe that would be something your H would consider if posed to him that way....Something to think about right?
