Thanks, today has slowly gotten better. I just hope I can keep this frame of mind. I know what I need to do. H tells me during every R talk you want me to come back to this. I know I have to stop. I didn't email him today, just kept busy. He emailed me something silly. So I responded equally silly. He reponded with a one word response to my email, so I did NOT respond. I know it is a little thing but usually I would respond just to keep the communication going, then be upset if he didnt respond or took a long time to respond. Today I didn't. Later he emailed me again, something silly. I responded and asked a question (about dinner) which he answered and left it at that. So a little tiny baby step for me. One work day of not obsessing whether H would email me or not. YEA! Maybe tomorrow will be easier. I have to put the focus back on my life. I have let things slip at work and at home with the kids. My goal is to not let that happen anymore. I still think I will do short one day at a time goals. I will check your thread.