Thanks Russ I needed that. Things got ugly last night. He is still here though and I guess that means something. I have to somehow get my emotions under control at home. So much easier said than to actually do. Everything the book and other people say about how our S respond to us is so correct. I have to find a way to be happy at home and to stay that way. I know this is the only way. But, it is so hard. Thought blocking is hard. Once those thoughts creep in, man they take hold and things get bad. I say and do things I shouldn't. Well it is a new day. We will see how it goes. I am a little sad but have several hours until I see H again. Hopefully I can turn it around Sherry