Unsure,
Thanks. For right now we are not telling anyone but boy did I want to tell his parents this weekend. I don't at this point want anyone to treat him different if we work this out. I know there may come a point when I will have had it and tell him to leave and then the cat will be out of the bag. But at this point it is still between us except for a mutual friend.
Yeah, I think I will do what you said about calling him after we are there and telling him we wont be home for dinner. I had already decided not to give him advance notice. I just can't do that yet. I can't give him that opportunity. Things seem a little better but I don't wont to get my hopes up.

I really don't like Mondays. Never did before this but now they seem worse knowing H is going back to work and will see OW.
At least I haven't said anything about R or OW to H today or since Saturday evening. Boy I want to though. It is always there. Did you call OW, when, how long. Called H tonight on the way home about some groceries we needed. He didn't pick up the first time I called. The second time H did pick up; I wanted to ask so bad, were you talking to HER is that why you didn't answer. But I didnt. When and how did I become this person? This is not what I was like before this.

Sorry about the ranting. This is just so hard and confusing.
Sherry