Hi Sherry, thanks for visiting my thread. You are in a tough situation and you know by reading my thread that we do hav a lot of similarities. My H is not physically involved so the STD thing is not a factor. I would be careful about if you think he may still be doing that with OW.
This is not an easy decision, I questioned wheter setting a time limit was good DBing. I did set a limit....I am not saying that if we aren't "happy" that I'm done but at that point I am definitely going to re-evaluate where we are and decide from that point what I want.
The problem is this, and Michelle states it clearly in her books....DBing is against human nature....our H's are being Aholes and we are supposed to act happy???? But it makes sense, I've read the same type of stuff in 3 or 4 other books...the other books just don't give the techniques.
What I really want to do is tell my H that he is a f'in ahole and he is being completely self-absorbed, childish, selfish, disrespectful and sometimes down right mean...but the question is this: WILL THAT BRING ME CLOSER OR FURTHER FROM MY GOAL?
My H said the same thing about give it time...it took 7.5 yrs it is not going to go away instantly.
You are here because you believe in your M. When you wake up in the morning and go to bed at night, look yourself in the eye and say "I will make it no matter what." And you will...whatever way your R goes you will have to live with yourself, and you should love yourself. Make changes in you, for you and your kids.
if you think he may still be doing that with OW.
