Part of me wants to totally side with NY on this one...Only because I am seeing that in my own sitch. I am loving, and H moves back home but never gives up OW....Having his cake and eating it too...But then the other side is walking away and telling him to leave me alone until OW is out of his life....Ultimatum not ready to follow through and I know it...So only you can decide when you have had enough. I know I dont want to live like this forever, but for right now I am doing the best I can do for me. So that is a choice you have to make for yourself. You are in the beginning stages so right now your emotions are everywhere from one day to the next and I am not going to lie that they wont be that way 6 months from now....But as each day passes it brings you closer to knowing what you have to do and actually doing it. I am getting to that place. I know that my last resort is hard love and letting him know I will not take it anymore, and I am slowly but surely getting there. I love my H, but cant go on like this forever. This week my goal is just to get through the week without backsliding. Because no matter what happens I dont want to be pathetic, and I know that is how I appear to H when I cry and plead. Its ok to cry but dont do it in front of H. Trust me it doesnt help. If it did, I dont think that anyone of us would still be here.
Set smaller goals for yourself, like getting through the day. Each day is a new day and you have to approach it that way.
