Unsure, Thanks, You are right. I keep backsliding and it is frustrating. I can't seem to keep my mouth shut. I know things go much better when I do. Yeah, Not snooping is one of my goals. I can't check H's email or cell phone. He actually had his cell phone locked so only the person with the password could check his messages(him of course) and of course he deletes anything else (incoming and outgoing calls). I haven't even looked at that in weeks. I hadn't looked at the cell phone account in over a week until this morning. I didn't look at # of minutes or messages. I just wanted to see if my gut feeling was right last night (that H had snook outside to call OW) and it was. I know H is going to call OW so I have decided to not look at the account. It will only hurt. I like your "act as if" suggestion. I will try that one. What is your situation? Thanks for sharing. Sherry
