I have a problem with GAL too...it is not easy when there are kids involved. I am also not an expert DBer but I'm trying....post some small realistic goals for yourself and your R. One of them should be to stop snooping...I stopped checking my H's emails a little over a week ago and although it is hard, and yes I still obsess I don't really know anything. What I do sometimes instead of replaying some of the emails I have seen over and over in my head is "act as if" there is an email in there that says...Hey, haven't heard from you in awhile or seen you online...or I understand your decision to try to make your M work.....I know it is wishful thinking but it does help with my PMA!
