Russ, No, we are not separated. Today, no I don't won't to be separated. Now ask me on another day and the answer could be different. I have asked H to leave several times but he has not yet. Right now that is good. I think it is easier to work on DB with him here. But on the other hand, it is hard not to show emotion or react to things with him here, which always sets things back. I seem to take steps forward, then slide back a few paces by saying or doing something I know I shouldn't. My heart just doesn't always agree with my head.
We have been married 12 years. We have two kids (B9, G4). H is involved with OW. H has stopped the physical part but still very emotionally attached. H is very conflicted about what he wants. I think H is scared to stay in the marriage. He says he cant see things ever changing. I think he is also scared about leaving. He says I have planted enough seeds of doubt about it working out with OW that he is also afaid to take that leap of faith, too.
At this point I am very unsure about what to do. I am trying the 180 in certain areas. The hard part is shutting off my emotions and not letting H see me upset. I am starting to do things on my own. Like I said, it is hard with the kids though. I guess now I am taking baby steps. Some days are hard, though. Some days I just want to give up and move on.
What about you? Are you DB on you WAW? Anything working?
