Hi,
I am new to this. I have been reading some of the posts on the backsliding in this forum. I can relate to a lot of it. My husband is living at home with me but is still continuing talking to the OW and maintaining an emotional R.
I know I am supposed to be positive and act normal. I can do that for a few days. But, after that I backslide. I don't know how to deal with all the emotions. How do I deal with the pain of knowing my H is still talking to the OW and seeing the OW at work. I know doing the same thing isn't working but it is so hard to not talk about my feelings especially with my H. I know he hates it. How do you ignore things that hurt like getting the cell phone bill and realizing all the things you were paranoid about were right on the mark. I also have 2 small children and am pretty much responsible for them on my own. I can't go and do things for myself like the book suggests. I am a teacher and my son goes to my school, so right after work I have him. It is impossible for my husband to get him after work. I take my children and have started doing things without my H. Is this what I am supposed to do? I worry that I am just giving him the time he wants to talk to the OW. I am very confused. I have good days where I think I can do this and horrible days where I just want it to end. I want my H gone so I can move on. Sometimes the pain is just too much.
SherryL