Sorry to ask a general question on your thread, but after reading the response from ConfusedAndAlone and going to the site which sells the PDF for helping the betraying spouse to repair the marriage, I would like to know -
For the purposes of DBing, can you treat a spouse who has a secret affair but doesn't walk out of the marriage or tell the spouse they want out (cake eating), the same as one who carries on an emotional affair, then drops the bomb about the marriage being over, leaving, and THEN starting the physical relationship. In the latter case, the betraying spouse IN HIS/HER OWN MIND doesn't think s/he is having an affair, doesn't think they have been 'unfatihful', know what I mean? Because they have made a 'clean break' first.
Even when the spouse stays in the marriage but continues the affair, they are usually promising the OP that at some point they will leave their spouse, right?
When and how does a betraying spouse who left a marriage before starting a PA actually come to a realisation that they have betrayed their spouse, or does this not always even happen, when the WA spouse wants to reconcile?
Also, ConfusedAndAlone, did you read the book for the betrayed spouse and did you find it helpful to you? Or was it your spouse who read it? Please enlarge a little, thanks.
Livnlearn
"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates
