Just a data point: I'm 42, and have been in perimenopause for over a year. Vaginal dryness is a problem, and I started having my upper lip waxed about every six weeks. A friend of mine in her 50s has none of these symptoms. I think this just one of those wildly variable things.

As for the lack of drive and depression (or what sounds like it may be depression), that may or may not be tied to menopause. Sounds like she needs a thorough check-up, as others have suggested, so she can get back on the road to feeling better about herself as well as your R.

I hope things improve for the both of you soon.


Leigh