Annette: I've imagined your H before as a scowler. You know how it is...we construct faces for many of our online acquaintances. It's hard to get a leopard (especially an old leopard) to change its spots. Maybe just asking him to smile a bit more might do the trick. Maybe not.
I can understand not wanting to approach someone who looks mad or mean. That's kind of an innate behavior. Have you talked to him about this?
Hairdog, who wishes he had better answers for annette, who always gives him good advice.
