Are we there YET?

[BeingMe]

Hey, Phoenix! Have a great weekend. We are still getting our house ready to put on the market, so this weekend I will be gardening - intense gardening, that is. My H will be doing painting, fixing the basement bathroom, and other little things that only H's seem to be able to do.

A thought occurred to me re your sitch ... have you ever tried not being a pushover. Using a bit of tough love, maybe? I once asked my H durng the darker times - "what advice would you give me if I was just a friend whose H was treating her this way?" He told me he would tell her not to put up with his crap (excuse the language). Well, maybe you should ask yourself what advice you would give yourself, if you were a friend whose wife was treating him this way? Try not to give her everything she wants, don't make compromises, set and keep your boundaries (treat her, basically, like a rebellious teenager). You could even say to her to not be such a martyr and to grow up, but maybe that's going to far, 'eh! I know you love her, but sometimes one has to realise that love alone is not enough, and we all deserve better than what we have (in your case and similar, I mean), and we just have to say, "enough, no more, I will not be treated in this way". We all also have to come to that conclusion in our own time.

I am thinking of you and praying for you.