Your probably very right, I'm just finding myself in a "used" sitch, which I have always resented. I don't like to feel taken advantage of. Right now I feel like that guy in that movie "Falling Down". Fortunately the commute home is fairly low key and I'm not likely to snap like that.
Like you suggested I think I will probably just focus more on changing me and my activities and just let the rest go. This next week I think I will try to go more one on one C and see where it goes. To stay positive I think I will focus my main attention on my kids. Right now I feel myself getting into a just don't give a rip mode. I'll go hug my little D3 and maybe I'll care again/more.